Are you your Teen Daughters Best Friend?
Do you think you can be “Best Friends” with your daughter?
This answer kind of shocked me to a certain degree.
During the course of this post I am going to explain why I think you can be both parent and friend.
I have a “Best Friend”, we have been best mates ever since Year 8 in high school, she is terrific! I also pride myself on the fact that I am both Mum and “Best Friend” to my older daughters, Miss M and Miss E.
I didn’t drink until I was of legal age and I was always considerate and respectful in letting them know my whereabouts. You might say that I was too good and missed out on valuable life experiences that teenagers are supposed to encounter, but I don’t believe life experience should be gained at the expense of a mutually respectful relationship with our parents.
Let’s just analyse what “Best Friends” do together….
- shopping trips
- Dinner/lunch together
- Great and long chats about boys, friend problems etc
- Offer advice about anything
I totally believe that being my girls “friend” as well as their parent has opened the door to communication and I can’t emphasise how important communication is.
Having said all of this, I am still and always will be their parent first. My girls know that I don’t tolerate lying, laziness, rudeness and disrespectful behaviour. They know that trust is the most important thing with me, that if they break that trust, that will have serious consequences, namely on their social lives and their phones…