The Short Short and Legging Debate #WomensLives
Raising a girl in this day and age is extraordinarily hard.
Things are just far more difficult and complicated than they were in the 80’s.
With the invention of the internet and social media, things are also no longer private.
There are so many things to worry about when raising girls and watching them blossom into teenagers.
- Are they making the right friends?
- Are they being tempted by drugs?
- Are they being bullied?
- When will I allow them to start dating?
- Are they drinking alcohol?
To me these are the important issues with raising not only girls, but our teen boys also.
But one thing parents of girls seem to have to worry about and parents of boys don’t, are physical appearances.
- Is what my daughter wearing appropriate?
- Does she have too much make up on?
- Is her skirt too short?
- Is her shirt too low cut?
- What impression is her clothing making?
- Are her shorts too short?
- And should she really be wearing leggings?
My girls go to an all girls high school, fortunately for us a uniform is required each day.
You have no idea how reassuring it is not to have to worry about what they should be wearing. (It would take them 3 hours to get out of the house each morning, instead of one with no uniform!)
However we used to have the dreaded “Mufti” Days. A day on the school calendar, whereby the girls could wear anything they wanted to school, usually in exchange for a charity donation. These are the days, where I found myself pulling my hair out.
Since the change of principal a couple of years ago these days have also been very far and few between, actually virtually non existent.
Apparently the girls were struggling defining the line, with what was acceptable school attire…and what wasn’t…
- No singlet tops
- No low cut tops
- No excess makeup
- No short shorts
- No leggings
The last two on this list were banned because apparently it made the male teachers in the school “feel uncomfortable”!!
WTH, I’m afraid this says more about the male teachers in question, than the girls!
And let me tell you, if you can find a pair of girls shorts that come lower than mid thigh then you are doing much better than me…because they practically don’t exist!
Leggings, once upon a time, were allowed on “mufti” days…with restrictions. A large top had to worn that was long enough to completely cover the derriere’, hence it effectively looked like you were wearing a dress and thick stockings.
Now they have just been completely banned….deemed too inappropriate.
Another thing that has made the black list lately is the cancellation of the “School Disco”.
This used to be a regular occurrence between the local “boys” school and our “girls” school. They are no longer being held.
The reason given was that the type of clothing that was being worn to the discos by the girls was inappropriate. Apparently this may give the boys “ideas”…..tell me what teenage boy doesn’t have “ideas”….?
If those said boys can’t control their “ideas”, then that is saying something about the way these boys are being raised. The girls should not be punished for the behaviour of a few errant boys.
To me this statement is also quite insulting to the boys. Giving the impression that all a girl has to do is turn up in a pair of shorts and a tight top and all bets are off!
Give the boys some credit please!!
The topic of the boys ripping of their shirts and swinging them around their heads while dancing at these discos was never mentioned, apparently this is OK …..double standard much?
My girls live in an all girl household, they go to an all girls school. Interaction between boys and girls in a social setting, I believe is so important, especially for them. How else are they to develop important social skills and to realise what indeed is acceptable behaviour and what isn’t, between boys and girls!
Why should girls be restricted on wearing items of clothing that clearly are quite appropriate, just because a few boys struggle controlling their hormones. Do they not encounter girls wearing various types of clothing out in public in other settings? How do they cope then?
I love my leggings, they are one of my favourite items of clothing in my wardrobe. They are so comfy and versatile. You can dress them up, dress them down, wear them for exercise, even wear them to bed!
My girls love their leggings too, they practically live in them.
What about the beach? Girls dress a lot more skimpily for a day at the beach, effectively getting around in their underwear! Although call it a bikini, slap an expensive price tag on it and then it’s acceptable!
When was the last time you saw a man cart a woman off at the beach like a caveman because she was dressed in a bikini? (Something I don’t have to worry about).
I think we need to give men and boys some credit.
Not all are going to lust after girls that are dressing a bit skimpily. If they do, then I would say that the man has some serious issues he needs to address.
Why should girls be punished because a few boys/men can’t keep their hormones in check? And why should our girls be restricted by what they wear because of this?
I don’t see the same restrictions being placed on men or teen boys!
Maybe this is the real issue and we should stop making excuses and blaming women and girls for the reactions and actions of a lustful few males.
It is up to us to teach our girls what behaviour is acceptable from men and boys.
What behaviour they should expect and to accept nothing less, rather than blame girls and make them feel responsible for the actions of others.
Are you a legging fan?
Do you restrict what clothing your girls can wear?