Living With Teenage Girls
Lately it seems like I’m walking around our house on egg shells.
I am finding that I am analysing everything I say before I say it, lest as a result of my un-thought out comment, I find myself once again, at the receiving end of a snippy teenager.
I am frequently reminded lately that my opinions are more often than not, totally wrong and irrelevant and also not required.
I am often looked at like I have just flown in from another planet, but my bewildered expression leaves no illusion, that indeed I think it is my teenager, that has just arrived from Mars.
Yep welcome to the world of parenting the teenager…
Adolescents are not monsters. They are just people trying to learn how to make it among the adults in the world, who are probably not so sure themselves. ~Virginia Satir
Hormones turn your once angelic, well mannered, easy going and patient little girl into the creature from the black lagoon.
With one look this creature can and often will bring you to your knees. She can leave you wondering what on earth is was you did this time to incur her wrath.
With just that one evil look, your supposedly comment made in good humour, has been interpreted as anything but. In fact a sense of humour just doesn’t even grace her personality at the moment, at least not with you.
Your instructions for her do her set chores around the house are met with sighs and eye rolls and absolutely nothing happens in this area, until you totally lose your shit, then you are the worlds worst person!
I once thought I had 4 daughters, now it seems as though only two are present at any given time, the teenagers now prefer to spend time tucked up in their rooms alone, they could be doing anything in there for all I know!
There are strange boys knocking on my front door (one in particular keeps coming around), he’s ok, but just so you know the bedroom door stays open! My barging into her room unannounced is often met with exasperated cries and death stares, yeah well get used to it sweetheart.
It’s difficult to decide whether growing pains are something teenagers have — or are. ~Author Unknown
My heart starts having palpitations when I look at the calendar and I realise that at least one of my teen daughters is about to start her period. This also means that her sister is due the week after.. This is affectionately.. or not so affectionately, as the case may be… known as the fortnight from hell.
At least I know there will be plenty of chocolate in the fridge for the next two weeks.
I have taken to encouraging silently from the netball sideline, after last week I was met with “that look” that told me in no uncertain terms to basically shut up.
In effect I packed up my bat and ball and withdrew to the silent corner, where other fellow netball mums prefer to hang out drinking coffee and adding the required clap and “well done” when required.
When I was asked “where did you go”? I replied that “I thought my presence wasn’t required”.
When she assured me that she needed me on the sideline and needed my encouragement each week, I was left somewhat confused. My confusion was quickly cleared up (or not) with the following comment…..
“I just didn’t need you today Mum”.
Oh, Ok yet another mood I now have to read and anticipate and decipher. Whether I sit and drink coffee with the other banished “netball Mums”, or yell and jump up and down on the sideline, I will no doubt get this wrong in the future.
Adolescence is a period of rapid changes. Between the ages of 12 and 17, for example, a parent ages as much as 20 years. ~Author Unknown
So what’s the answer, how do we find a way to live amongst the species that is the teenage girl and still keep our sanity?
How do I learn to not take everything so personally when she decides to let fly?
When you find the answer please let me know!