Should Our Daughters Watch The Bachelor?
I have two teenage girls. As a result there is what is known as “ The Bachelor” nights in our house.
These nights seem to bring such great excitement and anticipation.
I must admit, last year I was one of those who got caught up in the whole Sam and Sasha and Sam and Snez fairytale.
I still think both are a lovely couple and Sasha’s just a little bit of a spunk.
But I digress.
Embarrassingly, I admit that I got so caught up in the show, that my brain temporarily overloaded. My bullshit and rational thinking register malfunctioned to the degree, that my ability to think intelligently, between the hour of 7.30 -8.30pm each night flew right out the window. Well that’s my excuse anyway…
Fast forward to this year and we have last years Bachelorette finalist Richie (Mr Cool Bananas himself), dumped very ceremoniously into a hot pot of oestrogen.
A variable smorgasbord of women all vying for his attention each and every week.
I am looking at The Bachelor through new eyes
This year I have been able to look at this show though new eyes, (without the Sasha distraction, sorry Richie, you just don’t do it for me).
I have been able to watch this show objectively with my girls, who are The Bachelor tragics and really try and understand the appeal this show has to a wide audience, especially teenage girls
I have been able to analyse the whole concept of the show and I have to say the more episodes I watch, the more I am dumbfounded why a beautiful, intelligent woman would put herself through this whole experience, just in an attempt to find her soulmate.
These women are setting themselves up for failure and heartbreak every week.
Is it really so hard to find your soulmate?
Once declaring your feelings to Richie and on national television to boot, these women then have to then sit back and watch him date and snog a bevy of fellow “Bachelorettes”. Then sit, watch, wait and hope that it will be their turn to date and snog him next, if you are very lucky, in a bath of chocolate….mmmmm chocolate….
That my friends is the whole concept of The Bachelor.
I feel like dragging each of these women aside, giving them a good shake and shouting “for gawds sake! Don’t you have any self respect?”
I know for the most part, for the girls involved, it’s not just about finding that perfect man, but perhaps that perfect career and a moment in the spotlight.
To be perfectly honest none of them are shrinking violets, or have a self confidence issue. I’m sure to most of them, finding love is only one appealing aspect, a moment in the sun runs a close second.
I wonder what message that this type of show is sending out to young girls.
Is it ok to publicly compete with other women to win the affection of one man?
After all shouldn’t he want to be with you for YOU and maybe, just maybe, you shouldn’t have to spend numerous weeks trying to convince him of that fact. It should be pretty much a slam dunk.
And then where would we be without these classic moments.
- “I get a chance to meet 25 amazing women and I know that one of them is going to be my wife.” Good luck with that.
- “I’m at an unfair advantage because I’ve stalked you online for the last two months”… Um creepy much?
- “Maybe if things go well tonight, you can pollinate it later” …Pollinate what now?
- “I’m deserving and I’m really humble”… Of course you are sweetie.
- “I bet Jackies wishing she had a really big mouth right about now”… You might want to rethink that statement?
- “I have zero ball handling skills” … I’m not sure you want to admit that.
- “It’s just hitting me that there are other girls here”… I’m sorry but this is The Bachelor, what exactly were you expecting?
- “My greatest fear is loving someone and not having them loving me back”… Answer? Go on The Bachelor where there is a 1 in 25 chance of that NOT happening.
- “Every time we see Osher, we know something exciting is going to happen”… they really need to get out more.
- “I so want a single date, I’m so over being around other women” …You do understand the concept of this show right?
- “I’ve got a lot more to offer than anal gland chat”… I’ve got nothin’ in response to this one.
- “Please pick me to go on a date, otherwise I’m just going to go crazy”… Know how you feel…
- “What do they do? Swim off? Chugg off? I’m not sure what boats do”… Yes they put on their little boat floaties and swim off into the sunset.
- “Seeing them together got me right on the throw up button”… I couldn’t agree more.
I like to think I am raising intelligent teenage daughters.
They are smart, you can hold an intelligent and well thought out debate and conversation with them, however not when they are watching Richie snog his latest single date.
During this time I can literally watch their brain cells making a hasty escape through their ears.
I can understand how The Bachelor sucks you in. It’s like watching a train wreck every week, you just can’t take your eyes away, no matter how painful and cringe worthy it is. I mean who doesn’t love a happy ending!
We all know it’s going to be a happy ending ending right? OK let’s just forget about Blake and Sam for now.
At the end of the day I suppose it is a bit of lighthearted entertainment and if the girls entering into this show have no expectations and they understand that they most likely will end up hurt, then what’s the problem?
You never know, you play your cards right and you just may end the next “Bachelorette”, that’s when the fun really begins.
So will you accept this rose?