Life Parallels With A Teenage Girl – When Middle Age Throws You A Curveball
No one told me that a woman in her 40’s could expect to have so much in common with a teenage girl, or that the current status of my life would resemble theirs so much.
Here I am on the precipice of middle age and I feel like I have been thrown back a few decades. You know like Tom Hanks in Big or Jamie Leigh Curtis in Freaky Friday, although every day around here is a little “freaky” lately.
If you are a woman in your mid 40’s perhaps you can relate to a little of what I am going to say. If not then maybe you have some of this to look forward to.
We all sit our daughters down in their tween years and have the “talk” with them. You know the one, periods, boys etc.
We start encouraging them to carry a cute little purse pack in their school bag “just in case”.
Then as we watch, hormones start to take hold of their young innocent bodies and our cute little girl in pigtails turns into someone else entirely.
But that’s where the discussion ends.
It should become a priority in our late 30’s for our own mothers to sit down with us again and prepare us for what our 40’s are going to be like. Until about 6 months ago I had no idea what I was in for!
Our family as had a lot of upheaval in our lives over the last 6 months. It has been an incredibly stressful year so far for us.
I’m managing a full time job, running and maintaining a household and raising 4 daughters. I have also found myself a single parent at 44 years of age, something I never expected to be.
I’m also facing the prospect of starting all over again, just when I thought at this time in my life I would be settled and winding down towards retirement (well in 10 years or so, but it was still there on the horizon).
Now I’m not sure where my life is headed and everything is so unsure.
It is with this uncertainty that I now face life and it has made me draw some interesting is parallels between myself and that of my teenage daughters.
Note: If you are yet to enter the big wide world of peri menopause, you have all this to look forward to…
As a 44 year old woman I have been going through all the myriad of emotions and symptoms that seem to be giving my teenage girls a run for their money.
- Prone to emotional outbursts, followed by bouts of unexplainable crying
- Feeling as though I could practically sleep until midday, (probably because I have been up most of the night with insomnia and night sweats).
- My period doesn’t know if it is coming or going and neither do I, now I’m the one carrying the cute little purse pack.
- My phone has become my best friend (I read when I can’t sleep, love the Kindle app).
- I have become the pimple “Queen”. I now share pimple remedies with my 16 year old.
- My brain has become the foggy abyss. My most common statements now are “I don’t remember”, “you didn’t tell me” and “I forgot”… sound familiar?
Then there is the newly ‘single’ part of my life that has me drawing parallels with a teenage girl
- Apparently being “tuned” is this a good thing? How will I know if I am being “tuned”? Does this mean that I will no longer play out of tune? My 16 year old is regularly being “tuned” maybe I should go to her for advice on this one.
- I am unsure about my future. Where will I be in 10 years? Will I have a secure job? Will I find someone to share my life with again?
- Do I wait for him to ask me out? Or do I grab the bull by the horns? What happens if he says no? Ah welcome back my insecure friend.
- What are people thinking about me? I know I shouldn’t even worry about this but our current circumstances and its cause, would have indeed raised a few eyebrows within our close circle of friends. I can’t help but wonder what others are saying.
- Disappointing my parent. My Mum is great and has been my greatest support. I do wonder what she is thinking and hope that she is not disappointed in me. I know she is most definitely not, but I still think about it. No matter how old you get you still want to make your parents proud and I hope I’ve done that.
- Physical appearance. I have to say that after 20 years of marriage you tend not to worry about this so much anymore. I have always been well groomed but also secure in the knowledge that I didn’t have to try too hard. I mean that’s one of the perks being married right? Now I find myself wondering am I too fat? Is that a grey hair? Will I be found attractive?
- I no longer go down to Coles in my trackkies, I mean you never know who you will meet right?
Life is filled with uncertainty. Indeed its that way for everyone.
We never know what lies just around the corner. Sometimes life just throws us a curve ball once in a while.
I like to think that I am on the right path now, even though everything is just so up in the air and unsure.
In the words of Dory, I just have to keep on swimming.
I have to make a future and a happy home for my girls. Everything else is incidental and I’m sure it will all eventually fall into place, somehow.