Donald Trump Is a Huge Ass
A new statistic out this week tells us that only 1 in 6 Australian girls feel valued for their mind and abilities.
Seriously 1 in 6!!!
Obviously we still have a long road ahead of us if statistics like this tell us this is how girls perceive themselves.
But where does this thinking come from?
More often than not, the way a girl sees her future prospects and ambitions in life are actually influenced by those closest to her. Her family.
A report commissioned by the women’s rights organisation, Our Watch and Plan International Australia, surveyed 600 young women aged 16-19. They asked their feelings on sexism in exam environments, schools and in the home. The results were very depressing.
It should come as no surprise to those of us with daughters, just how influential the world around them actually is. How easily influenced they can be.
Whether it is emulating their favourite actor or pop star, suffering from bullying and peer pressure or even the commercialism of TV and magazines. Girls all are subjected to outside influences on a daily basis. Of course anything that a teenage girl reads between the covers of a magazine just has to be true, right?
That’s a girls job
The survey also showed that 1 in 3 girls felt that household duties were shared unevenly between the male and female members of the family. Many girls citing that the typically “female” chores were always assigned to them, while the boys of the household missed out all together, or were in charge of the “male” perceived tasks.
More than half the girls surveyed said that they felt more valued for their looks than for their brain and abilities.
This last one is indeed a scary statistic particularly of late in the wake of the school yard pornographic scandal. Girls from more than 30 NSW schools had their images shared on a pornographic sharing website, without their consent. These photos according to police were shared by men and boys that personally knew the girls.
Still whether we realise it or not, gender inequality is still a problem at the forefront of our society and indeed in some of our own homes.
Young girls are very perceptive.
That is why we have to be very clear on where we stand on important issues that will affect our daughters and their futures.
The American Presidential Election is all over our news services at the moment, even in Australia. What is grabbing the headlines however it is not the political issues at hand, but rather how a man such as Donald Trump with degrading and demeaning attitudes towards women, has been able to rise to a position of potential power?
A man that says things like….
- “Giving your wife “negotiable assets” is a terrible mistake.”
Maybe because they didn’t expect rape!
- “The early victories by women on “The Apprentice” were to a very large extent, dependent on their sex appeal.”
- You know it doesn’t really matter what the media writes, as long as you’ve got a young and beautiful piece of ass.”
- “You wouldn’t have your job if you weren’t beautiful” – To a female journalist.
- “All the women on “The Apprentice” flirted with me, that’s got to be expected.
- “You’re disgusting” – To a breastfeeding mother
- Insult to an “Apprentice” contestant, “It must be a pretty picture, you dropping to your knees”.
- “There’s a lot of women out there that demand that the husband act like the wife and you know there’s a lot of husbands that listen to that”
- “If Hillary Clinton were a man, I don’t think she would get 5 percent of the vote. The only thing she’s got going is the woman’s card”
- “I would like to think she would find another career or find another company if that was the case” – In response to when asked what should happen to a woman sexually harassed in the workplace. Apparently she had to be the one to leave.
- Women who seek abortions should receive, “some form of punishment”.
- “If Ivanka weren’t my daughter perhaps I’d be dating her”…. Just ewww.
- “Look at that face. Would anyone vote for that? Can you imagine that, the face of our next President? I mean, she’s a woman and I’m not supposed to say bad things, but really folks, come on. Are we serious?”
How can girls expect to think of themselves as equals when even the potential leader of the free world, (how scary is that!) thinks of us as second class citizens. It is so concerning that in 2016 girls are still fighting to be valued for their intellect and opinions.
Michelle Obama nailed it
It truly is worth the 24 minutes to sit and watch her epic speech where she openly condemns Donald Trump for his past and present remarks that have been degrading to women and girls everywhere.
I have one daughter at University who is studying Business and Commerce.
As part of her degree she has elected to study “Gender Studies”. It is her aim once she graduates to have an impact in abolishing inequality in the work place.
She wants to make a difference in the world. I can see this girl going far, even politics dare I say it.
She is a visionary and will be an advocate for change.
My second daughter is in year 10 at an “all girls” school. This school is amazing! They have a really strong ethos when it comes to educating girls and aim to get the best out of each and every one of them.
The students are constantly told to “smash that glass ceiling”. To strive towards what you want out of life, to never give up and to never be told “you can’t”.
They celebrate International Women’s Day and I can’t help but wonder if the same emphasis would be put on gender equality if this was a co-ed educational environment. I would like to think so.
It needs to start in our schools
It’s in our primary schools however, that children are already developing pre-conceived ideas and following the opinions of their parents, before they have had a chance to develop their own.
Whether they are told directly or indirectly what their parents opinions are on topics of the day, or whether they overhear snippets of conversation, the majority of the time their thoughts and opinions are generally not their own. They are a product of outside influences.
My 11 year old came home from school last year complaining that the boys in her year wouldn’t let her play cricket with them. Quoting “they told me cricket is a boys” sport. (Never mind that the Australian women are the current cricket World Champions…the men?.. Let’s not go there).
My point is, where do young boys get these opinions and perceptions from? They just don’t pluck them out of thin air.
I asked my girls if they heard any sexist remarks directed at them.
Shockingly here’s a sample of what they came up with.
“You play like a girl”
“Boys will be boys”
“You hit like a girl”
“A womens place is in the kitchen”
“The little wife”
“The fairer sex”
“Why don’t you just sit there and look pretty”
“That’s not Ladylike”
“How’s it goin’ Love”?
The old “Wolf Whistle” in the street
“You are such a Bitch” – because she is assertive
“Don’t dress like that if you don’t want the attention” – she was in her school uniform.
“If only you were a bit older honey”….
And the sad thing is they are used to it now.
Change has to start in the home if we have any hope of changing the way future generations view gender equality. The point also has to be reinforced in our schools. Particularly in those early years.
I am raising my girls to be future leaders of our society. They are the next generation, they are going to grab the bull by the horns and run with it.
Who am I, or who is anyone to tell them they can’t?
Smash it girls, until it comes raining down.